Friday, January 16, 2015

Book Review: Girl Online by Zoe Sugg

Penny has a secret.

Under the alias GirlOnline, she blogs about school dramas, boys, her mad, whirlwind family - and the panic attacks she's suffered from lately. When things go from bad to worse, her family whisks her away to New York, where she meets the gorgeous, guitar-strumming Noah. Suddenly Penny is falling in love - and capturing every moment of it on her blog.

But Noah has a secret too. One that threatens to ruin Penny's cover - and her closest friendship - forever.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Please Excuse Me While I Try To Be An Adult

Growing up is weird. On one hand, it's a process that happens over time without much notice, because you are growing daily. But on the other, you look back and try to remember the exact moment when the coin flipped.

I'm nineteen - still a teenager but also an adult. And honestly, ever since I hit eighteen, I've never felt like an 'adult.' I don't have a job or go to school or do adult-like things. I don't live on my own, pay rent or do taxes. However, I think I've finally realized that these aren't the things that make you an adult. It's the personal growth that you have from when you start the transition from teenager to adult.

I don't depend on anyone else for my enjoyment or to take care of me. Sure, I reach out for help when I need it, which we all should do. But what I mean is that no one is responsible for me, except me. My mom still makes my doctors appointments and that's contradicting what I'm saying, but I'm growing. One day I'll make them myself. Or I'll die avoiding the doctor.

Some of the best memories I have are sitting down to dinner every night with a full meal and family. This was the usual up until about sixteen, and then I started to cook for myself because my parents were going through a separation and dinner wasn't exactly top priority in the household. I think this is one of the biggest turning points for my transition - I was relying on myself to feed myself, and planning meals ahead of time just for one. Sitting down on the couch to eat lasagna on my lap seems lonely and sad, but it was actually a way for me to grow and learn to take care of myself.

One of the biggest things I've noticed about growing up is that people actually become human to me. It sounds strange, so let me explain. When I was young, I looked at my parents, teachers, doctors, police officers all like they were saints, per-say. I looked at them like they knew all the answers to every question and lived perfect, normal lives. But as I got older, I realized that they're actually people just like me. They have problems, ambitions, hopes, dreams and fears. They no longer were these magical people I had come to believe they were. And actually, thinking about that still makes me sad. It's weird how we learn as we grow. And we never stop either of those things.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Depression Sucks More Than You Think

I wanted to be completely honest on this blog, for my own sake, to help me heal and get better. So that's exactly what I'm going to do.

After having some of the best days I've had since switching medications and being diagnosed with anxiety and depression, I've had a bad day. It may not sound like much, a bad day after some good days. But to me, while going through this, it feels like such a setback.

Events in life can cause depression or moments where you feel down, but depression itself can vary from person to person. One of the hardest things I have to deal with from having this mental illness is that you can't always target what exactly has made you feel upset, unworthy, or plain unhappy. Being a hypochondriac, I often think that there are things wrong with me and in my life, even when things are fine. So when feeling down, my mind goes to things around me that aren't wrong and twist them around so that I feel this way because of these situations that are actually not happening.

It sounds crazy. And maybe I am a little crazy, but not having something to pinpoint and assess as the cause of feeling down is really hard for me. My mind goes into overdrive and immediately dissects the important parts of my life until I can mistake one careless word for a giant, unreal problem.

And to top everything off, I don't feel like me. I don't really know who me is because I've been this way for so long. It's like I'm living inside someone else's life. My thoughts, my feelings, even the way I see everything around me - they're all different and it's really scary. A broken arm you can see,  you can fix, and you can move on. But a mental illness isn't something you can simply cure or put back together. You can't see it, therefore a Hello Kitty band-aid is out of the question. The problem isn't on your body - it's in your head. It's you. Everything that makes you who you are is affected. That's why I feel so hopeless from these setbacks. Because I'm not who I am, and right now, I don't know who that person is.

Monday, January 12, 2015

I Have The Perfect Hamster

Is anything cuter than that? He's my perfect little fluff ball who I have to brush on a regular basis, who cleans his cage for me, and who has the best cuddles in the world. But despite all this, a few days ago, Milo surprised me in the best way ever.

I'm not a very forgetful person, so I don't leave my hamster out running wild or leave him starving. However, he has to parts of his cage that I can open. One is the top burrow compartment, where he sleeps and hides all his food, and below is the normal cage door, which I only open at night to hold him when he's finally awake. But the other day, after checking on him in his burrow, I opened the cage to check his water - and somehow managed to forget to close it.

Now my room is a giant mess at the moment. The floor is covered with clothes and nonsense, and I also have a bed that is a black hole of messiness underneath. So what does Milo do, when he wakes up and realizes that the world is in his paws? He conquers my room, comes out into the hall, and finds me in the living room. Then he sits at my feet until I stand up and notice him - and also have a mini heart attack.

He literally came to say, "hey Mom, you left the door open. Go close it!"

My hamster didn't even escape. He came to let me know what I did. Isn't that seriously amazing? I still can't believe it.

Milo got lots of cuddles, kisses and treats after that. I think he's pretty happy with himself.

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Stories Are Just That - Stories


I think sometimes readers, and writers alike, forget that stories don't always have to be real. They're stories for a reason. You can have the wildest names, craziest settings, and they can never actually be unrealistic because in the book world, anything can happen.

That's something I need to remember. I nitpick my stories apart even without rereading what I've written. I know that if I do go back and look when I'm self-doubting, it will all go to waste. 

There's millions of things happening at this very moment in time. And again now, and again, and again...Who's to say what happens in your story isn't possible, or isn't already happening? No one. If you want to write a story about horse princesses that live in a castle, go for it - write what makes you happy to be writing.

xoxo Monst3rs

Friday, January 9, 2015

Things I'm Doing Instead of Writing

I'm the worst person for procrastinating. In high school, I left the big project to the night before (sometimes the morning before) and wound up getting it done that way instead of ahead of time. That being said, I do that for things I love, too. Especially writing. Maybe if I keep track of what I'm doing so I don't have to write, I'll switch up my procrastination routine.

1. Video games are my worst enemy. I can go for hours on end without realizing how much time is passing, or tell myself I'll stop after one round of that game - but I won't.

2. iPod Apps. You know the ones that you have to check periodically because certain tasks take real time, so when you put it down you pick it right back up again and wonder, 'hey, my wheat is probably done growing by now.'

3. Milo snuggles will keep me immobile - and unable to type, for as long as he will cuddle and sleep with me.
4. I will actually clean to procrastinate writing. I hate cleaning. I love writing. How is this possible?

5. Browse social media and refresh it every minute as if something groundbreaking is unfolding.

6. Being talked into playing World of Warcraft by my boyfriend. Just one dungeon, he says. It is never just one.

7. Watching Pretty Little Liars on Netflix.

8. Organizing things I used to procrastinate doing.

9. Answering inbox's, messages, comments, emails, etc.

10. Complaining that I never write anymore.

11. Being melodramatic about stupid things.

12. Retaking a million snap chat pictures because I look like I've been doing meth.

13. Reading so I simply don't have to write.

14. Watching YouTube until I'm all caught up on my subscriptions. Then watching other things so I don't have to move.

15. Scrolling through Twitter and reading drama that I had no idea was happening.

16. Googling information on that drama so I am well informed to pick a side.

17. Internet stalking the life out of the people involved in that drama because I'm a horrible person.

18. Getting story ideas from that situation and not writing them.

19. Daydreaming about being a writer.

20. Doing literally nothing.

Thursday, January 8, 2015

I'm At a Crossroads

 This picture means more to me than you can imagine. I grew up watching The Simpsons since I was a baby that couldn't even crawl. It's a show that brings me nostalgia of my childhood and warm, fuzzy memories. But this episode specifically, when Lisa goes vegetarian - this one really got to me.

I've had a special connection with animals my entire life. If I could, I would be surrounded by animals at all times and rarely talk to other humans. Seriously, they are so much better than people. In grade eight I made the decision to go vegetarian and haven't intentionally eaten meat since. (we all make mistakes, sometimes you really don't know what you're being served)

Over the years I've learned more and more about the food industry, and it's not pretty. Now I'm not going to share the gory details with you as I'm not here to preach, but what I've learned really gets to me. Mother cows give birth to calves just to produce milk for us to drink. I love milk - it's one of the main reasons I haven't gone vegan. But recently I learned that most of the calves that are born are slaughtered within days, and I haven't drank/used it since.

It's been years since I've eaten meat, and I'll admit it's very hard and frustrating to live in a place with very few vegetarian options. Going out is always an ordeal and on top of that, fruit and vegetables are much more expensive than junk food and pop. There's been many times when I've been frustrated with myself for making my life harder than it was. It is so hard to have limited options. At family dinners, they don't always give you alternatives. If the only thing you can eat is asparagus and bread, then you do it. But it does suck.

However on the other hand, think of all the meat that goes to waste. Am I really making a difference by not eating it, even if it is just for myself? Or are those animals that were slaughtered for us to eat, were they thrown out without being used? I don't want to support animal cruelty and what goes on in the places that do it. And I don't want to continue on missing meat and the easy lifestyle it has to offer.

These thoughts have come up more and more recently, and I'm really not sure what I'm going to do. What are your thoughts on vegetarianism and the whole meat industry? Share with me as I could really use some insight.
xoxo Monst3rs